More than a label: masculinity and men's mental health
People like labels. We like to put things into boxes. We like to be able to identify something as one thing and not another. And in a lot of scenarios, this is a good thing, as it can help us make sense of our world. But we run into problems when we label people. Individuals are complex. What make us who we are is a combination of a huge number of characteristics and experiences and certain labels can end up giving a narrow, inaccurate picture of who someone is.
In this blog, we’re going to talk about the concept of masculinity and how it can impact men’s mental health. We’ll talk about the importance of breaking the stigma around men seeking mental health help and provide insights into understanding and addressing these issues.
Understanding Toxic Masculinity
Masculinity is a multifaceted concept that generally refers to the characteristics associated with being a man or male. While biology plays a role, cultural and societal norms heavily influence the definition of masculinity. As societies evolve, so does the definition of what it means to be a man, making it a mix of nature and nurture. In North American culture, it’s common to describe an “ideal” man using some of the following terms: strong, provider, tough, dependable. The characteristics and expectations associated with masculinity are not inherently bad. Traits like grit, determination, and resilience are not problematic on their own. They can become harmful, however, when taken to extremes or applied inappropriately. In essence, it's not the characteristics themselves but rather their misuse or inflexibility that leads to issues.
The Impact of Labels
One critical aspect is the human tendency to label and categorize individuals based on preconceived notions of masculinity. These labels not only define and prescribe what a man is but also set limitations on what they cannot be. This labeling process is driven by the need for society to create norms and expectations to make the world more understandable and predictable. However, this has implications for how men perceive themselves, their self-worth, and their mental health.
The rigidity of adherence to these labels can lead to mental health issues. Men who tightly associate their identity with traditional masculine traits, such as emotional restraint or the role of a provider, may find it difficult to adapt to changing circumstances. For instance, a man who loses his job, which is closely tied to his identity as a provider, may experience profound distress and a sense of inadequacy. It’s important to recognize and value the many parts that make us who we are. We are not just what we do for a living or who we’re in a relationship with or the talents we have.
The danger of associating one's identity solely with external factors or predefined characteristics is that at times our circumstances and feelings will be at odds with such prescribed labels. In the context of masculinity, this can lead to mental health challenges when individuals struggle to fit the mold they've created for themselves or society has imposed upon them.
The Challenge of Otherness
The concept of masculinity can inadvertently create a sense of "otherness." It defines who is considered a part of a particular group (men) and, by extension, who is not (everyone else). This can lead to conflicts, isolation, and alienation. Men who adhere strictly to certain views or labels may experience isolation and even exhibit hostility toward others. Such conflicts, whether aimed at others or at oneself, can lead to significant mental health struggles.
Breaking the Stigma
The need to expand our understanding of masculinity and break free from rigid, confining labels is crucial. Mental health professionals often work with men who are grappling with isolation or internal conflict as a result of these labels. Encouraging men to identify with the characteristics within the broader label of masculinity, rather than the label itself, can foster better mental health outcomes.
It's important to understand that the concept of masculinity is fluid, and strictly sticking to stereotypes can have consequences for men's mental well-being. Breaking the stigma and encouraging men to embrace their multifaceted identities can help them adapt and cope with the challenges they face. By opening up conversations and promoting flexibility within these constructs, we can pave the way for healthier, happier lives for all individuals, regardless of their gender.
If you find yourself struggling, it's important to remember that you're not alone. We all face moments in life when we need support. Seeking help can lead to personal growth, self-discovery, and better mental health. If you need help, reach out to Calgary Counselling Centre or Counselling Alberta
Information for this blog post was provided by registered clinical social worker, Stephen Walker and registered psychologist, Joel Zimmerman. Learn more about our counsellors.
Check out episode 13 of the Living Fully podcast: Toxic masculinity and mental health